Wow how powerful What they hate is their own lack of self-control, so they control you. What they despise is your strength. What they hold in utmost contempt is your refusal to be controlled and to accept their lie that it's your fault.
Amen "controllers, abusers and manipulative people don't question themselves. they don't ask themselves if the problem is them. they always say the problem is SOMEONE else" - so true for this narcissist who puts people on back burners!
we had a relationship therapist type thing come to our school and talk about what a unhealthy relationship or abusive relationship is, as i read the list it all applied to mine but i refused to believe it.