Learned the hard way, DON'T DO THIS FOR A NARCISSIST! Never ever, ever, stand by someone that treats you badly and says one thing but does another, i.e. says he loves you, NEVER shows it, is abuse. Run. Believe me, it is better to be alone than in a relationship with a person that uses your good heart and your good soul.
Sometimes this includes family. After spending years trying to make life better for my family I hit the breaking point. I care, but I just can't do it anymore. To love and care and bend over backwards with not so much as a fraction of the care or concern shown back to me I can no longer care the same. I am letting it go.
I'm learning how to sleep again ~ for so long, the anger of the abuse kept me unable to sleep until he left for work. Serious chronic fatigue was my daily experience ~ there is peace and energy that comes with leaving an abusive relationship. There is hope <3