Your middle school student must learn how instructive and motivating a failure can be. I use the metaphor of: “You have got to be willing to throw mud on the wall. Some of it will stick, some of it will hit the wall and slide down, and some will hit the wall and fall on the floor. You will learn what works, what almost works and what will never work.” We call this experience. Failures in life should not be an end but an opportunity to begin a new and fresh.