Seven years ago, my husband of 20 years discovered that I was having a 5 year affair. Wow! That’s a mouthful. I’ve never put that in print, and there are only a handful of people who know the real reason we separated and eventually divorced. It’s both scary and liberating that I just shared that … After Having an Affair, How Do You Ease the Pain and Guilt? Read More »
Mistake my arse!! Then you try and blame me for it, when I tell you that it wasn't a mistake. You made a conscious choice for well over a year if not a couple of years, to do what you were doing. THAT'S NOT MY FAULT AND IT'S NOT A MISTAKE, IT'S A CHOICE YOU MADE ...... DUMBASS.
After an affair, in order to move forward, couples needs to come to an understanding of their history and knowing what happened. Be careful how much detail is shared with the betrayed regarding the infidelity to not create more problems with healing.