The same with one negative or mean word! Being honest we all would have to say we have been on both sides of this spectrum! I am so happy that I have found myself and now try to remember to only use kind words!
This is what happens when 4 of your 6 beautiful bridesmaids live out of state in Boston, 1 in NYC, 1 in Lincoln) and 1 lives hundreds of miles away in Northern CA. A lot of pressure falls on the local lady -- LOL!