The Gottman Institute | A research-based approach to relationships
Partners who characteristically turn toward each other rather than away are putting money in their Emotional Bank Account. They are building up "emotional savings" that can serve as a cushion when times get rough. Because they have stored up all of this goodwill, they are better able to make allowances for each other when a conflict arises. For more, visit www.gottman.com.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling
Our goal at The Gottman Institute is to provide antidotes for the Four Horsemen by teaching couples to effectively manage conflict, enhance positive affect and friendship, and create shared meaning in the relationship.